How often do we really make time for ourselves?
We live in a culture where becoming busy has become ‘cool’. How often, when someone we have’t seen for a while gets in touch and asks how things are going do we say; ‘really great but I am so busy.’ I know I do.
How many times a week do we say or think the following;
- ‘I just don’t know where the time goes?’
- ‘The weeks just role into one.’
- ‘The weekend has gone by in the blink of an eye’
As we get older time goes faster, but I think not only that but we live in an age where we expect things to be done quickly. The age of ‘order before 10pm receive before 8am tomorrow’.
As parents we feel the pressure to fill our children’s calendars with football club, horse riding lessons, gymnastics so we ‘never get a minute to ourselves’.
The cost of living means we have to work more hours, sometimes we even need to take on extra work to keep up with growing expenses of raising a family.
All these things take away time for ourselves. It’s so simple but so neglected as we rush around trying to get everything done. Just last night after a full day working, followed by an evening catching up on housework and sorting out the kids, it was after 9.30pm by the time I finally sat down.
So how do we make time for ourselves then? Now I am not for one minute saying stop taking your children to their classes, let your house get really messy or cut your hours at work, but there are a few simple things we can do.
- Take 3-5 minutes out every hour-this can be done even if you are at work-slip off to the bathroom, photocopier, kitchen. During this time just become focused on your breathing. It sounds a bit ‘hippyish’ maybe but it will help you regain focus and clarity
- Do not feel guilty to schedule ‘your time’ in your diary. Have at least three hours each week where you do something just for you. You could get lost in your favourite book, go for a walk, take a long bath, meditate, watch your favourite film
- Become mindful of ‘energy sucking situations’ and realise how valuable your time is. What activities serve you no value? How can you eliminate these? It may involve putting a curfew time on your social media activity or letting go of certain things; like ‘do you really need to iron everything’
- Ask for help. I personally have started involving my children in some simple tasks like pairing up socks on the dryer and feeding the cats. It really helps me out and gives us even more of that ‘Team Verron’ feeling
What will you do to make time for yourself.