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Stopping Negative Self Talk

Just a quick blog post today but I wanted to share a bit about something which I am becoming more and more aware of:

Self Talk; specifically negative self talk. I have read a couple of books. One in particular which resonated with me was You are a Badass which is all about conquering self doubt and becoming the best version of yourself.

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Self doubt and negative self talk can end up consuming you. It can start with a thought in the morning like ‘I’m always late’ or ‘I am always losing things’ and the negativity will start to breed and can take over your whole day. These are actually common thoughts I have at the start of the day and it stems down to something which I know I can easily change; my organisation skills and getting up earlier.

I am the kind of person who can be organised or get up early when I know that I absolutely have to. Like years ago when I was a teacher I would be up and out by 7.20am because I wanted to get my admin done prior to starting my day. I also manage to organise my equipment when I am going to see a client. However, when it comes to getting the kids to gymnastics on time or knowing where my keys are it’s a different story.

Therefore sometimes the best way to stop the negative self talk in situations like that is to take simple steps to preventing the situations-like getting up ten minutes earlier or having a specific place to put the keys.

The trickier negative self talk to ditch is that about our personal qualities and abilities. Things like ‘I have no friends’ , ‘I attract one idiot after another’ or ‘nothing every goes right for me’. These are harder to hit on the head as they are instilled in us by our experiences, sometimes right from childhood.

When we have a limiting belief like this which is deep routed, we go around looking for things all the time which confirm this belief. We also end up attracting these situations a it is the view we are putting out there.Believe

For me the first step in challenging this is recognising when we are having a negative belief and acknowledging it. A tip I recently read in Katie Piper’s new book Confidence is to have a word which shuts down the negative thought and stops it in its tracks. It’s best to make it a neutral word and it can be something really random and funny. Mine is ‘Sausages’ .

This word is then your trigger to turn that belief around. Tell yourself the complete opposite. Even if you don;t believe it one bit. Once you start doing this you feel so much better.

The same goes with if you have to do something which you don’t want to do-sometimes for me it is simple things like emptying the cat litter tray or cleaning the bathroom. Nothing can change the fact you have to do it, the only thing which you have any control over is the attitude you have about it. You have a choice about whether to go about it in a positive way  or negative complaining way. If it’s a really yucky task like cleaning the bathroom focus on the outcome-‘once it is done it’s done for another week and I can enjoy looking at a clean sparkling sink instead of one full of toothpaste stains.

So anyway, I will be writing a bit more about this as I look into this further but it’s an ongoing thing which I am working on and I think it’s something which can help anyone to ‘enhance’ their lives even in the smallest ways.

xxx

Health and Beauty Tips

Salon in your sitting room-the benefits of mobile beauty services

As a massage and beauty therapist my primary aim of my business is to bring the comfort and luxury of the salon or spa into the convenience of your own home. While obviously a spa day or visit to the salon is a lovely treat, with our increasingly busy lives it is not always possible. I know personally I have cancelled salon appointments simply because I don’t have time or because I cannot be bothered getting in the car and riving there.

There are numerous benefits of a home based treatment;

Drift away with a massage:  Massage can be an immensely relaxing treatment with benefits such as aiding peaceful sleep and relieving stress not the mention the hydrating benefits of the massage oil. Therefor having to get dressed into sensible clothes and wake your self up enough to drive home post massage can counteract the benefits you have just experienced. After receiving a massage in your own home, you can simply slip into pajamas and dressing gown, make yourself a herbal tea and relax on the sofa or even head off for an early night.

When I come to a clients house I ensure I bring a fluffy blanket, dim the lights and play soothing music to allow my clients to drift off and imagine they are where ever they want to be.

Full benefits of a Facial- After receiving a facial it is recommended that you do not wear makeup for 24 hours afterwards in order to receive the full benefits. This can be tricky if you have to go from salon to petrol station to shops, particularly if your facial has been an effective enough one to leave you with post treatment redness.

I offer evening and weekend appointments so that my clients can book in when they have gone about their daily routine and are settled at home for the evening or chilling on a Saturday or Sunday.

No chilly toes after a pedicure-  you can’t beat a pedicure, particularly a luxury one involving heated treatment boots in winter.The downside, however is inevitably even if you think they are dry, they aren’t really and you run the risk of either smudging them in socks or braving flip flops and even then not smudging them is a bit of a chore. With a home pedicure you can put the heating on or sit in front of the fire with bare feet until you are sure your polish is completely dry.

Avoid being seen with post massage hair-  One of my favourite treatments is Indian head massage or scalp massage as part of a facial. The downside of this relaxing treatment however is crazy hair which sticks out at all angles-particularly if, like me you have naturally curly, prone to frizz hair. Experience a home scalp massage and eliminate the inevitable risk of bumping into that glamorous work colleague or ex boyfriend on your way home.

Let your nails dry while you watch TV- although gel polish is a favourite with most clients, some still prefer traditional polish. The obvious downside is the amount of time it takes to dry. Getting your coat on, your keys out of your bag and driving home without smudging those perfect nails can be a mammoth task. A home manicure removes these risks. As long as you remember to go to the toilet prior to having your nails done you can sit and watch TV or read a book and wait until your nails are fully dry.

As a mobile therapist I do sometimes think I would love the convenience of having a salon space to work from however, my clients tell me that they love the convenience of being able to have treatments, particularly massages at home.

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New Year’s Resolutions

Inevitably at this time of year, even if we are not ones for jumping on the ‘New Year, New Me’  band wagon, most of us start to reflect on the past year, make plans and set goals for the coming year. My new year’s resolutions  are usually along the lines of ‘eat healthily, exercise more, stop complaining, find a new job, be more organised’ – the same as most people my age with my kind of life style no doubt.

I have in the past set some which I have actually stuck to. One year (I think  2010) my goal was to do interesting learning activities with my kids-I kept this up until my youngest started nursery and actually blogged about the things we did. Another circa 2012 was to lose the weight I had gained while pregnant (yes I know I had my youngest in 2008). I joined slimming world and have actually managed to stay somewhere between a size 9

This year, however, I am looking to make my resolutions (or rather goals or aspirations) more specific.Having either worked or been in education for literally all my life, I am more than familiar with setting SMART targets along with ‘self assessment’ and goal setting’ . Additionally I have thought about aspects of my life which I need to improve on in order to make life easier and make me a better person living my life more effectively.

Therefore I prefer to call them New Year Plans rather than resolutions. Here they are:

1. Get up an hour earlier each day– I am constantly complaining that I don’t have enough time or that I am always rushing about.Plus I am basically a complete tress head in the mornings. Eventually my aim is to get up two hours earlier each morning (imagine all the extra things which can be done in those two hours).

2. Read at least 10 pages of a self development book each day– I am a huge believer in personal growth and development particularly since reading The Secret and fully understanding the power of our thoughts and self belief. This goes hand in hand with getting up earlier each morning as I will be fitting my reading in to this extra time.

3. Try one new recipe each week-  One area where I seriously lack is in the kitchen. My main issue is that I don’t particularly enjoy cooking coupled with the fact that being on my own with two fussy kids basically means if they don’t eat what I have prepared there is really only me to eat and enjoy it meaning all the effort in the kitchen seems a waste. None the less it’s an area I need to improve on and I have some great recipe books.

4.Exercise Daily-This doesn’t mean a full on workout every day, it could be as simple as 20 sit ups in the evening but every little bit adds up and contributes to the greater result. My goal is to do 30-60 minutes exercise at least 3 times a week combined with short bursts of exercise when I can.

I feel like I should have a fifth one as four seems an odd number (obviously I know it’s an even number). However goals such as being succesful in growing and developing my massage and beauty and network marketing businesses kind of interplay with the first two goals really. Getting up earlier will give me more time to get things done and personal development will increase my confidence, self belief and discipline.

I also hope to spend more time blogging and to get better at it.

What goals and resolutions are you setting for 2017 xx

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Here Goes-Introduction

 

Welcome to my blog-I have titled this blog; enhancing my life for two reasons. Firstly because its primary focus is to share my journey as I strive to live a better life on all levels; as a parent, in my career, my health and my mind set and way of thinking. Secondly, one of the goals I am working towards is running a successful massage, beauty and holistic therapy business which I have called Enhance.

So this leads on then to my background really. Basically since leaving full time education at the age of 21 I have worked in education-until recently further education. It’s something which I loved particularly the interaction with students. However, while I do not want to get into political discussion, unfortunately further education took a big hit when funding cuts were made. After taking voluntary redundancy I decided to retrain in beauty therapy as its something which I have always had an interest in along with health and wellness. Anyway, this is what I did and I have recently started out with my own mobile business Enhance Massage and Beauty. I work part time in primary education but my ultimate aim to for my business to be financially viable enough for me to do it full time. This therefore leads me nicely to talk about my second business.

I am also an Independent Arbonne Consultant. I was introduced to Arbonne by a friend at the point when I was starting to look not only to use higher quality products in my treatments but also for something to run alongside my other commitments to boost my income and develop my business. Arbonne is a 35 year old ultra premium skincare, health and wellness company which operates by word of mouth or as its formally known ‘network marketing’ in order to bring the highest quality products to the consumer at a lower cost.

I was drawn to this business as not only do I have a passion for beauty but also for health and wellness and also generally focusing on developing a positive mind set and ‘can do’ attitude and surrounding myself with positive and likeminded people is so important; I have experienced far too much negativity in my working life and realised things needed to change. My goal now is to build my business and at the same time transform and inspire the lives of others. I love Arbonne and the products and I love being a massage and beauty therapist.

So now here I am at the beginning of my journey and I look forward to sharing it with you…