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Making time for yourself

How often do we really make time for ourselves?

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We live in a culture where becoming busy has become ‘cool’. How often, when someone we have’t seen for a while gets in touch and asks how things are going do we say; ‘really great but I am so busy.’ I know I do.

How many times a week do we say or think the following;

  • ‘I just don’t know where the time goes?’
  • ‘The weeks just role into one.’
  • ‘The weekend has gone by in the blink of an eye’

As we get older time goes faster, but I think not only that but we live in an age where we expect things to be done quickly. The age of ‘order before 10pm receive before 8am tomorrow’.

As parents we feel the pressure to fill our children’s calendars with football club, horse riding lessons, gymnastics so we ‘never get a minute to ourselves’.

The cost of living means we have to work more hours, sometimes we even need to take on extra work to keep up with growing expenses of raising a family.

All these things take away time for ourselves. It’s so simple but so neglected as we rush around trying to get everything done. Just last night after a full day working, followed by an evening catching up on housework and sorting out the kids, it was after 9.30pm by the time I finally sat down.

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So how do we make time for ourselves then? Now I am not for one minute saying stop taking your children to their classes, let your house get really messy or cut your hours at work, but there are a few simple things we can do.

  • Take  3-5 minutes out every hour-this can be done even if you are at work-slip off to the bathroom, photocopier, kitchen. During this time just become focused on your breathing. It sounds a bit ‘hippyish’ maybe but it will help you regain focus and clarity
  • Do not feel guilty to schedule ‘your time’ in your diary. Have at least three hours each week where you do something just for you. You could get lost in your favourite book, go for a walk, take a long bath, meditate, watch your favourite film
  • Become mindful of ‘energy sucking situations’ and realise how valuable your time is. What activities serve you no value? How can you eliminate these? It may involve putting a curfew time on your social media activity or letting go of certain things; like ‘do you really need to iron everything’
  • Ask for help. I personally have started involving my children in some simple tasks like pairing up socks on the dryer and feeding the cats. It really helps me out and gives us even more of that ‘Team Verron’ feeling

What will you do to make time for yourself.you-%e2%80%a8are%e2%80%a8worth%e2%80%a8it

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Beat the January Blues

I have had this blog post in mind for a few days but haven’t got around to actually typing it out.

January gets such a bad rep, the other day while I was plodding away on the treadmill I was thinking how sad it was that Christmas is over, it’s cold and there is nothing to look forward to, not to mention being skint from Christmas and on a healthy eating challenge. However, that then got me thinking-a lot of the things we look forward to or associate with having a good time involve spending money, eating lots and often drinking alcohol too. Why is this? I know it’s certainly true of me. In the past when I have been on a diet I have treated myself to a shopping spree to cheer myself up. Or likewise if I have been on a spending diet or skint I’ll cheer myself up with naughty food. Talking to other people, the general consensus is January is a bit of a rubbish come down after the excitement of Christmas.

It got me wondering then, what can I do to change these associations or pleasure and enjoyment being from potentially unhealthy habits.From this I came to a couple of conclusions. The first being about balance really, rather than needing to always have something to look forward to or counting down the days to the weekend or next holiday or when the weather gets warmer or lights get lighter I should learn to be more present in the moment. Life shouldn’t need to be about having something to look forward to. It should be balanced enough that you don’t need something to be counting down to. Nor should it be necessary to need to spend money, eat unhealthy food or drink alcohol as means of seeking pleasure.

At first I thought maybe have something simple to look forward to each day like a bath, reading a good book or listening to a meditation app. These are positive habits. I then also thought I should live in the moment more rather than needing ‘something to look forward to’. Don’t get me wrong it is nice to have a treat-As a massage therapist I’m advertising my January offers as ‘something to look forward to after the excitement of Christmas. However at the same time it’s important to be present in the moment a well at looking at changes we can make to make our lives more balanced.

What do you think? It’s something I am kind of working on as I don’t have a specific answer yet, it was just a thought which came over me and got me thinking..

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New Year’s Resolutions

Inevitably at this time of year, even if we are not ones for jumping on the ‘New Year, New Me’  band wagon, most of us start to reflect on the past year, make plans and set goals for the coming year. My new year’s resolutions  are usually along the lines of ‘eat healthily, exercise more, stop complaining, find a new job, be more organised’ – the same as most people my age with my kind of life style no doubt.

I have in the past set some which I have actually stuck to. One year (I think  2010) my goal was to do interesting learning activities with my kids-I kept this up until my youngest started nursery and actually blogged about the things we did. Another circa 2012 was to lose the weight I had gained while pregnant (yes I know I had my youngest in 2008). I joined slimming world and have actually managed to stay somewhere between a size 9

This year, however, I am looking to make my resolutions (or rather goals or aspirations) more specific.Having either worked or been in education for literally all my life, I am more than familiar with setting SMART targets along with ‘self assessment’ and goal setting’ . Additionally I have thought about aspects of my life which I need to improve on in order to make life easier and make me a better person living my life more effectively.

Therefore I prefer to call them New Year Plans rather than resolutions. Here they are:

1. Get up an hour earlier each day– I am constantly complaining that I don’t have enough time or that I am always rushing about.Plus I am basically a complete tress head in the mornings. Eventually my aim is to get up two hours earlier each morning (imagine all the extra things which can be done in those two hours).

2. Read at least 10 pages of a self development book each day– I am a huge believer in personal growth and development particularly since reading The Secret and fully understanding the power of our thoughts and self belief. This goes hand in hand with getting up earlier each morning as I will be fitting my reading in to this extra time.

3. Try one new recipe each week-  One area where I seriously lack is in the kitchen. My main issue is that I don’t particularly enjoy cooking coupled with the fact that being on my own with two fussy kids basically means if they don’t eat what I have prepared there is really only me to eat and enjoy it meaning all the effort in the kitchen seems a waste. None the less it’s an area I need to improve on and I have some great recipe books.

4.Exercise Daily-This doesn’t mean a full on workout every day, it could be as simple as 20 sit ups in the evening but every little bit adds up and contributes to the greater result. My goal is to do 30-60 minutes exercise at least 3 times a week combined with short bursts of exercise when I can.

I feel like I should have a fifth one as four seems an odd number (obviously I know it’s an even number). However goals such as being succesful in growing and developing my massage and beauty and network marketing businesses kind of interplay with the first two goals really. Getting up earlier will give me more time to get things done and personal development will increase my confidence, self belief and discipline.

I also hope to spend more time blogging and to get better at it.

What goals and resolutions are you setting for 2017 xx

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Learning to love Autumn

So all of a sudden it looks like Summer is over and Autumn is here with a vengeance. The nights are getting darker earlier and the mornings are getting colder; the shorts have been  packed away and the tans are fading.

If I am totally honest-I don’t like Autumn! Facebook is full of posts going on about Halloween, Autumn clothes and beautiful colours. However, for me it just reminds me of what is around the corner, Winter! Yeah I love Christmas, absolutely love it, but I don’t like the cold and dark. Also, working in education September is HARD..

Anyway, enough negativity, I am not creating this blog to moan, quite the opposite in fact. I am all about embracing positivity. Here are a few things I am doing or have done to learn to love Autumn:

  1. Enrolled on a college course: I am a firm believer in constantly updating your learning. Being a massage and beauty therapist this is especially important as I want to be able to offer more and more treatments to my clients. Therefore I am doing a level three nail qualification. More than that though, it gives me something to look forward to in the evening once a week plus a break from the mundanity of the evening and bed time routine with the kids-if you are a mum you must be familirar with it-that time between coming in from school and bedtime. In summer it’s not so bad because you can go in the garden or to the park but mid week when its wet and cold it’s like ‘er what do we do’. So even if you aren’t looking to change careers or in need of professional development, consider doing a leisure course. You never know where it might take you.
  2. Setting fitness goals: I admit, the last few months I have been busy getting my business going and spending weekends at my parent’s caravan so my fitness and gym routine has all but disappeared. However, I know how much exercising improves my state of mind and the posivitity I gain from reaching fitness goals transfers to other aspects of my life too.
  3. Getting jobs done on the house: Ok so one advantage of the cold dark nights is no longer feeling compelled to be outside as much as possible. Therefore I can spend time doing all the things which need doing around the house-a huge on being decorating the hallway which has been an ongoing project since May 2015. Seriously.
  4. Making a vision board: If you have never heard of vision boards google it. It’s something I am involving the children in too but works on the premise that what you believe you have and what you ask of the universe you receive in abundance. Working in education, Septemeber feels like the start of a new year so perfect time to set goals.
  5. Reading/listening to audios: I do a mix of both these really. Audios are great for listening to at night and also in the car (obviously in the car you wouldn’t listen to anything which would make you feel sleepy). With audios I like to listen to personal development stuff (I prefer that term to self help). I absolutely love The Secret. In terms of reading I love a books which are a bit psychological but are still easy to read.

Do you love Autumn? What are you doing to make the last few months of the year fabulous for you xxxrubbish-weather