Fitness goals, Uncategorized

Getting back on track

Hi,

Gosh it has been ages since I wrote a post. I have had a bit of a break from being on social media so much as I was finding it was taking over my life far too much when I was doing my network marketing business and I had no time for anything else.

Anyway, one thing which I have really been focusing on is exercise and eating better. I did my 30 day to healthy living in Feburary and I did feel amazing while I did it, but I hold my hands up and say that when it was over I 100% craved all the things I had banned. I know it works for some people but it did not for me as it was too strict.

However, after spending March and most April in eating overdrive and gaining the 4lbs I lost plus more I decided something had to be done. I have been sticking to having 1-2 shakes a day with added fruit, nuts or seeds as they fit in with my life meaning that I don’t need to think about what to make for breakfast or lunch. In addition to this I have been having a healthy tea. I haven’t cut anything specific out this time and have found because of that I have not craved it, nor have I been eating spoonfuls of nut butter simply because it was the only thing a little bit tasty that I was allowed.

I have also been motivated with the gym and been out running. With running I decided not to time myself and just stick to 5k and with the gym I am doing a mixture of classes and my own thing on the machines.

I definitely feel so much better when I am exercising and eating healthy however I don’t think restrictive diets are for me.

personal development, Uncategorized

Stopping Negative Self Talk

Just a quick blog post today but I wanted to share a bit about something which I am becoming more and more aware of:

Self Talk; specifically negative self talk. I have read a couple of books. One in particular which resonated with me was You are a Badass which is all about conquering self doubt and becoming the best version of yourself.

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Self doubt and negative self talk can end up consuming you. It can start with a thought in the morning like ‘I’m always late’ or ‘I am always losing things’ and the negativity will start to breed and can take over your whole day. These are actually common thoughts I have at the start of the day and it stems down to something which I know I can easily change; my organisation skills and getting up earlier.

I am the kind of person who can be organised or get up early when I know that I absolutely have to. Like years ago when I was a teacher I would be up and out by 7.20am because I wanted to get my admin done prior to starting my day. I also manage to organise my equipment when I am going to see a client. However, when it comes to getting the kids to gymnastics on time or knowing where my keys are it’s a different story.

Therefore sometimes the best way to stop the negative self talk in situations like that is to take simple steps to preventing the situations-like getting up ten minutes earlier or having a specific place to put the keys.

The trickier negative self talk to ditch is that about our personal qualities and abilities. Things like ‘I have no friends’ , ‘I attract one idiot after another’ or ‘nothing every goes right for me’. These are harder to hit on the head as they are instilled in us by our experiences, sometimes right from childhood.

When we have a limiting belief like this which is deep routed, we go around looking for things all the time which confirm this belief. We also end up attracting these situations a it is the view we are putting out there.Believe

For me the first step in challenging this is recognising when we are having a negative belief and acknowledging it. A tip I recently read in Katie Piper’s new book Confidence is to have a word which shuts down the negative thought and stops it in its tracks. It’s best to make it a neutral word and it can be something really random and funny. Mine is ‘Sausages’ .

This word is then your trigger to turn that belief around. Tell yourself the complete opposite. Even if you don;t believe it one bit. Once you start doing this you feel so much better.

The same goes with if you have to do something which you don’t want to do-sometimes for me it is simple things like emptying the cat litter tray or cleaning the bathroom. Nothing can change the fact you have to do it, the only thing which you have any control over is the attitude you have about it. You have a choice about whether to go about it in a positive way  or negative complaining way. If it’s a really yucky task like cleaning the bathroom focus on the outcome-‘once it is done it’s done for another week and I can enjoy looking at a clean sparkling sink instead of one full of toothpaste stains.

So anyway, I will be writing a bit more about this as I look into this further but it’s an ongoing thing which I am working on and I think it’s something which can help anyone to ‘enhance’ their lives even in the smallest ways.

xxx

Health and Beauty Tips, personal development

Making time for yourself

How often do we really make time for ourselves?

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We live in a culture where becoming busy has become ‘cool’. How often, when someone we have’t seen for a while gets in touch and asks how things are going do we say; ‘really great but I am so busy.’ I know I do.

How many times a week do we say or think the following;

  • ‘I just don’t know where the time goes?’
  • ‘The weeks just role into one.’
  • ‘The weekend has gone by in the blink of an eye’

As we get older time goes faster, but I think not only that but we live in an age where we expect things to be done quickly. The age of ‘order before 10pm receive before 8am tomorrow’.

As parents we feel the pressure to fill our children’s calendars with football club, horse riding lessons, gymnastics so we ‘never get a minute to ourselves’.

The cost of living means we have to work more hours, sometimes we even need to take on extra work to keep up with growing expenses of raising a family.

All these things take away time for ourselves. It’s so simple but so neglected as we rush around trying to get everything done. Just last night after a full day working, followed by an evening catching up on housework and sorting out the kids, it was after 9.30pm by the time I finally sat down.

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So how do we make time for ourselves then? Now I am not for one minute saying stop taking your children to their classes, let your house get really messy or cut your hours at work, but there are a few simple things we can do.

  • Take  3-5 minutes out every hour-this can be done even if you are at work-slip off to the bathroom, photocopier, kitchen. During this time just become focused on your breathing. It sounds a bit ‘hippyish’ maybe but it will help you regain focus and clarity
  • Do not feel guilty to schedule ‘your time’ in your diary. Have at least three hours each week where you do something just for you. You could get lost in your favourite book, go for a walk, take a long bath, meditate, watch your favourite film
  • Become mindful of ‘energy sucking situations’ and realise how valuable your time is. What activities serve you no value? How can you eliminate these? It may involve putting a curfew time on your social media activity or letting go of certain things; like ‘do you really need to iron everything’
  • Ask for help. I personally have started involving my children in some simple tasks like pairing up socks on the dryer and feeding the cats. It really helps me out and gives us even more of that ‘Team Verron’ feeling

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