personal development

Beat the January Blues

I have had this blog post in mind for a few days but haven’t got around to actually typing it out.

January gets such a bad rep, the other day while I was plodding away on the treadmill I was thinking how sad it was that Christmas is over, it’s cold and there is nothing to look forward to, not to mention being skint from Christmas and on a healthy eating challenge. However, that then got me thinking-a lot of the things we look forward to or associate with having a good time involve spending money, eating lots and often drinking alcohol too. Why is this? I know it’s certainly true of me. In the past when I have been on a diet I have treated myself to a shopping spree to cheer myself up. Or likewise if I have been on a spending diet or skint I’ll cheer myself up with naughty food. Talking to other people, the general consensus is January is a bit of a rubbish come down after the excitement of Christmas.

It got me wondering then, what can I do to change these associations or pleasure and enjoyment being from potentially unhealthy habits.From this I came to a couple of conclusions. The first being about balance really, rather than needing to always have something to look forward to or counting down the days to the weekend or next holiday or when the weather gets warmer or lights get lighter I should learn to be more present in the moment. Life shouldn’t need to be about having something to look forward to. It should be balanced enough that you don’t need something to be counting down to. Nor should it be necessary to need to spend money, eat unhealthy food or drink alcohol as means of seeking pleasure.

At first I thought maybe have something simple to look forward to each day like a bath, reading a good book or listening to a meditation app. These are positive habits. I then also thought I should live in the moment more rather than needing ‘something to look forward to’. Don’t get me wrong it is nice to have a treat-As a massage therapist I’m advertising my January offers as ‘something to look forward to after the excitement of Christmas. However at the same time it’s important to be present in the moment a well at looking at changes we can make to make our lives more balanced.

What do you think? It’s something I am kind of working on as I don’t have a specific answer yet, it was just a thought which came over me and got me thinking..

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New Year’s Resolutions

Inevitably at this time of year, even if we are not ones for jumping on the ‘New Year, New Me’  band wagon, most of us start to reflect on the past year, make plans and set goals for the coming year. My new year’s resolutions  are usually along the lines of ‘eat healthily, exercise more, stop complaining, find a new job, be more organised’ – the same as most people my age with my kind of life style no doubt.

I have in the past set some which I have actually stuck to. One year (I think  2010) my goal was to do interesting learning activities with my kids-I kept this up until my youngest started nursery and actually blogged about the things we did. Another circa 2012 was to lose the weight I had gained while pregnant (yes I know I had my youngest in 2008). I joined slimming world and have actually managed to stay somewhere between a size 9

This year, however, I am looking to make my resolutions (or rather goals or aspirations) more specific.Having either worked or been in education for literally all my life, I am more than familiar with setting SMART targets along with ‘self assessment’ and goal setting’ . Additionally I have thought about aspects of my life which I need to improve on in order to make life easier and make me a better person living my life more effectively.

Therefore I prefer to call them New Year Plans rather than resolutions. Here they are:

1. Get up an hour earlier each day– I am constantly complaining that I don’t have enough time or that I am always rushing about.Plus I am basically a complete tress head in the mornings. Eventually my aim is to get up two hours earlier each morning (imagine all the extra things which can be done in those two hours).

2. Read at least 10 pages of a self development book each day– I am a huge believer in personal growth and development particularly since reading The Secret and fully understanding the power of our thoughts and self belief. This goes hand in hand with getting up earlier each morning as I will be fitting my reading in to this extra time.

3. Try one new recipe each week-  One area where I seriously lack is in the kitchen. My main issue is that I don’t particularly enjoy cooking coupled with the fact that being on my own with two fussy kids basically means if they don’t eat what I have prepared there is really only me to eat and enjoy it meaning all the effort in the kitchen seems a waste. None the less it’s an area I need to improve on and I have some great recipe books.

4.Exercise Daily-This doesn’t mean a full on workout every day, it could be as simple as 20 sit ups in the evening but every little bit adds up and contributes to the greater result. My goal is to do 30-60 minutes exercise at least 3 times a week combined with short bursts of exercise when I can.

I feel like I should have a fifth one as four seems an odd number (obviously I know it’s an even number). However goals such as being succesful in growing and developing my massage and beauty and network marketing businesses kind of interplay with the first two goals really. Getting up earlier will give me more time to get things done and personal development will increase my confidence, self belief and discipline.

I also hope to spend more time blogging and to get better at it.

What goals and resolutions are you setting for 2017 xx